Rights Of Family Members And Islamic Behaviour In Marital Life

Rights Of Family Members And Islamic Behaviour In Marital Life

Rights of Family Members and Islamic Behaviour in Marital Life

Wife and husband are the two big pillars of the family. Both have rights with respect to one another, which will have to account for if not maintained even though it can be said that: the responsibility of the husband is more because his creation is distinct and he is stronger in capacity. The Lord Almighty has also held the husband as the guardian and the ward of the family. He says: Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them to excel others and because they spend out of their property…

The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) has said: Man is the guardian of the family and every guardian is responsible in the matter of those who are in his guardianship.

The man who is the manager of the family must remember that a woman is also a human being like a man and she also has her own wishes, ambitions, right of life and freedom. He must understand that taking a wife does not mean taking a slave girl. Rather it means selection of a life partner, friend and sympathiser. It is essential to pay attention to her internal desires and ambitions too. It is not that man becomes an absolute owner of the woman and the wife also has rights on their husbands.

Almighty Allah has said in the Holy Quran: and they have rights similar to those against them in a just manner.

The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said: The angel Jibraeel made so many recommendations regarding the wife that I thought that it is not permissible to divorce her except in case of open shamelessness.

It is also recorded from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) that: The best of you is the one who is the best for his family and I am the best among you for my family.

It is recorded from Imam Baqir (a.s.) that once Ali and Fatima (a.s.) went to be Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) to get guidance. He says: Then he Prophet asked Fatima (a.s.) to perform the works within the house and he asked Ali (a.s.) to do outdoor works. Fatima (a.s.) said: Then I became so happy that none except Allah knows it.

Ishaaq bin Ammar says: I asked Imam Sadiq (a.s.): What is the right of a wife on her husband which if carried out the man can be a good man? The Imam (a.s.) replied: He should feed her fully, clothe here nicely and if she makes any mistake he must forgive her.

The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said: The most perfect man from the viewpoint of Faith is the one whose morals are the best. The best among you is the one who behaves nicely with his family.

It is also recorded from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.): The more the Faith of a man the more he loves his wife nicely.

Imam Sadiq (a.s.) said: One of the morals of a Prophet is that he loves his wife nicely.

Luqman the wise is reported to have said: A wise man must behave like a child mild child in his house and he should spare his manly tough behaviour for outdoor jobs.

When Saad bin Muaaz, who was one of the great companions of the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) and to whom the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) used to give much respect, died Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.), like all other mourners, joined his funeral barefoot. He placed the body of Saad in grave with his own hands and covered his face. At that time the late Saad's mother who was observing all these last rites wherein the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) had given so much honour to her dead son, exclaimed: O Saad! Congratulations for the paradise. The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said: O mother of Saad! Do not voice such a claim, because, Saad will experience the clutch of the grave. Thereafter companions inquired about the clutch of grave from Saad. The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) replied: It was because Saad used to behave badly with his relatives.

In conclusion, if someone lives the life correctly and pays attention to the rights of others and of his relatives and gives respect to his family members, he will live a good and safe life and it will rightly be said that the family environment is indeed a sweet and restful place. But if Divine limits have been crossed and human rights have been trampled under feet, that is a life which is troublesome, tiring and sorrowful and it can be called a hell on earth.

Grave responsibility of women

Ladies must understand that taking good care of husband is not an easy job, which every woman can fulfil nicely. Rather it requires special knowledge of working, taste and discipline. A woman who desires to take care of husband must earn his pleasure. She should have good morals and nice attitude. She should try to make him a kind, lovable and respectful husband so that he may prove to be the best guardian for his family, the best father for his children and a kind tutor. Almighty Allah has given extraordinary power to a woman. The welfare and happiness of the family is in her hands.

The woman can make her house a heaven on earth. She can also turn it into a hellfire. Similarly she can help her husband reach the heights of progress. She can also make his future dark.

The issue of taking care of husband is so precious and important that it has been considered a Jihad Holy war of the woman. Imam Sadiq (a.s.) said: The jihad of a woman is taking nice care of her husband.

It is also recorded from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) that: The best women among you are those who have love and affection.

We should also remember that it is not enough to have love and affection only in the heart. It should be visible so that family life remains warm. The Holy Prophet (s.a.w.s.) said: When anyone of you loves your brother or associate or friends make it know to him.

Imam Sadiq (a.s.) has said: Very far from the mercy of God is a woman who troubles her husband and makes him sorrowful. Every lady who respects her husband and does not give trouble to him and obeys him is fortunate and successful.

Imam Sadiq (a.s.) also said: Every woman who goes to bed when her husband is displeased with her that is she has not respected his right, her prayer remains unaccepted until she pleases him.

In the end, both the wife and the husband should know that if there behaviour is not correct and Islamic, usually, their children become corrupt and mischievous. In a way, those fellows who are doing bad deeds in society are those who were brought up in an atmosphere of a quarrelsome family life.

How may are the boys and girls who became helpless and whose family life is very disturbed and who have turned their world into a hell…

At the end of this discussion let all of us try our best to observe our Islamic and human rights.